Passion comes alive when it is in the right room with the right people. It sizzles!
And last week, that’s exactly what happened to me at the REFRAME MasterClass.
I am that guy who is fascinated with the possibilities of what people can become if they know how good they really are today. I am deeply passionate in helping them find it!
And last week, I spent 2 days with 17 people in the same room doing it.
AND WE WERE ON FIRE!
That’s what happen to your passion when you use it on the right people in the right room. Otherwise, it gets doused off and extinguished really quickly.
Because what you are most passionate about could be something that others are most dispassionate about.
So go figure.
It is not so difficult to see why sometimes our passion falls flat with the people around us. And that discourages us. And getting discouraged often enough, you eventually give up on what you thought could be your passion.
When you feel that no one cares about or believe in or feel for or not understand your passion, it may not mean you are wrong about your passion. But it may mean that you need to figure out what is right FOR your passion.
Passion sometimes die not because we did nothing. It dies because we did not do the things that are right FOR them.
Imagine an imaginary Dr Kutdeep who is deeply passionate about surgery. Every patient he sees, anywhere he sees them, he drags them to the surgery room and operate on them. His motto is “Always Operate, No Matter What“. How long do you think he will hang on to his licence?
Not very long.
It is easy for us to make sense on the things that we are most passionate about. We ask ourselves, “What is so hard for others to understand my passion?” What is so hard to understand developing the potential of others, feeding the poor, becoming an amazing singer … If we can feel it so strongly, surely they can. So we ram our passions into everyone we meet and anywhere we meet them. Just like Dr Kutdeep, “Always Operate, No Matter What“.
And I was exactly like this before. “Always Operate, No Matter What“.
It didn’t matter who I was with or where I was, I would always try and find an opening to share my passion. It used to be always about me, what I want to say and never about them. The moment I see an opening, WHAM! They would be in my line of fire and there is no escape.
And the aftermath? Some people do get interested. But most lose their interests 15 seconds into my assault. I see their eyes glazing over, getting distracted and literally going from “hello!” to “oh.”
My passion can make me pushy, insensitive to others and sometimes, irrational. And I need to realize when I become that “Dr Kutdeep”. It is not “Always Operate, No Matter What“. If I really want my passion to come alive and sizzle with people, I have to learn how to operate when and where needed.
I need to be in the right room with the right people. In other words, work with people who wants to work with me and serve those that wants to be served by me.
And here are 3 simple ideas I have been using to be in the right room with the right people …
1. See People Through Your Passion
Your passion enables you to see the people you want to impact. It should not blind you from seeing them.
If you are standing on stage with your passion shining down on you, it is not so much about you standing there than it is more about the people who came. Your passion shows you who your audience is and it draws them in.
So look out for them! Don’t be full of yourself.
Passion is focused on serving others. Without people, it is just in an empty room of huff and puff!
2. See People In Your Passion
Your passion comes alive when others come alive because of it.
Your passion will not materialise unless you know how to make it useful for others. It is not just about you. It is more about others.
Who would most benefit from your passion? What do you know of them, their needs, their challenges, their dreams, their yearnings, their struggles? How can you help them? Are you able to positively impact them? Do yo have the skills? Not everyone will be excited about what you do. And not everyone can be served by you. Learn who your right audience is and identify the the right people for your passion.
So take time to find out, listen and prepare. Then when the time is right, they might just listen to you.
3. See People With Your Passion
Your passion when done right will draw the right people to be with you.
Because people wants to be a part of something bigger than themselves. They want to be useful to people around them and in doing so, find their own purpose in life.
You can actually help them to achieve that. And when that happens, your own passion truly comes alive!
So help people see how they can be a part of your passion, what they can do with you, and how they can be in the same room with you. And if you don’t know how, just ask them! 🙂
Be In The Right Room With The Right People
Being in the wrong room with the wrong people drains me completely.
And since I have been practicing these 3 simple ideas to be in the right room with the right people, my situation has changed entirely. I am more energized, more confident and more capable in using my passion.
Truth is, I am still learning how to get better at it.
It is still a struggle from time to time in putting people in front of my passsion and not the other way round. That it is not just about me. It is definitely more about them.
People is the real reason why our passions come into being. It is about them through us. Without people, passion is hollow. And we would just be in an empty room all alone by ourselves.
So if you want your passion to be really useful to people, and if you don’t want to prematurely give up on what you think your passion is, then don’t become Dr Kutdeep’s motto “Alway Operate, No Matter What.”
Be smart and do the right things for your passion.
Give yourself a break and find ways to be in the right room with the right people.
Then step back and watch your passion sizzle and come alive!